I think the most common thing here is to create a filter, if ghere’s Content that you only want a subset of your subscribers to see! Once you’ve done that, you can make that filter opt-in, and only the people who specifically opt in to that content, and you add to the filter, will see it. (I’ve never actually done this so I can’t give more specific instructions than that, but I know it’s possible!)

Sorry, you’re dealing with that, and good for you for writing about it— it sounds like a very good thing to have a space to talk about it!

Edit: I think you do it from here : https://www.dreamwidth.org/manage/circle/editfilters