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[fangirl_says]

I have a side blog on Tumblr that I've used for non-fandom blogging; mostly mental health, coming to terms with my bisexuality, and relationship abuse issues. It's been a useful thing for me to have somewhere to record things as they happen, because my default response is that after a few days, I start to believe that I somehow caused whatever happened, or that maybe my spouse is right and I somehow imagined everything. It helps to reassure myself that I'm not simply mentally ill (in this way, anyway.) And tbh, I have absolutely no one irl that I can talk to about these things. It's a terribly lonely thing to have all of these thoughts and feelings and experiences and never be able to express them in any way. It also feeds into my own self-doubt when I have only my own thoughts on things.

At any rate, there are things I want to record for my own reference. On Tumblr, a few people followed that blog, and I think it's possible that some others might want to, if they're experiencing something similar or they're just curious or they want to understand why people sometimes stay in abusive relationships (so far...). I'd rather not post to this account, because I know it can be awkward to be presented with these things when you're minding your own business, chugging along looking for some fun/interesting convo on fandomness, maybe just wanting distraction from stress or negativity or what have you. I do get that. And I don't want to alienate people by smacking them in the face with my gaslighting/abuse experiences when they're innocently looking for fanfic recs. ;D

Is it even possible to create a secondary journal here on DW, though? I guess that's the first question I really need to ask. I need to do some more digging around and find out how that works here.

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[vulgarweed]

Seconding what the other people here have said about ways to do this on DW. One option I see used a lot is making a custom filter with people who have opted-in. You make a post asking if followers want to be on your personal-life/personal-issues filter, give people a few days to respond, and just add the people who said yes to that filter. People who said nothing won't be able to see your posts on the subject, that you marked for that filter, though they will see all the others. You can always add or subtract people later.

Edit: Oh wait, I basically just repeated exactly what Tei said.

I am so sorry you're going through this. Especially if gaslighting and being made to doubt your own feelings and experiences is a factor, it's really important to have people who can help you with reality checks.

[fangirl_says]

Thank you for saying that. And that's exactly what I want -- reality checks. :)