I am woman, hear me rant.
Jul. 3rd, 2008 02:39 pmI honestly do not understand the mindset that says people who've been on the receiving end of an unprovoked, anonymous attack should just not say anything. Should just let it go and move on. Or maybe just quietly work it out in email.
Fuck that noise.
People who smear other people anonymously do so because they think they can get away with it. Maybe they have gotten away with it in the past. And you know what? If there aren't any repercussions, they'll probably do the same thing in the future.
I think society in general tells women they shouldn't complain when they're wronged, shouldn't make a fuss, and I see that happening on LJ right now. God forbid we should speak up -- there might be OH NOES drama, and drama must be avoided at all costs, apparently, even when it's well-deserved drama. I think that's bullshit. If I have something negative to say about someone, I figure there are two choices -- either don't say it, or say it with my name attached, and stand by my own words. If I'm wanky about it, I fully expect to catch flack for it, and I fully expect people to point-and-laugh or call me on my batshittery.
So I think that's why it boggles me when there are so many people going "oh, why don't they just let it go and move on" instead of pointing out to their friend that her actions were wrong, or even asking why she would feel the need to do something like that. If the situation was reversed, these same people would probably be calling for blood. That's fucked up, man. Being someone's friend doesn't mean you can't ever think they're wrong, and can't ever hold them accountable for their words and their actions.
And it doesn't mean the other side should just shut up, either.
Fuck that noise.
People who smear other people anonymously do so because they think they can get away with it. Maybe they have gotten away with it in the past. And you know what? If there aren't any repercussions, they'll probably do the same thing in the future.
I think society in general tells women they shouldn't complain when they're wronged, shouldn't make a fuss, and I see that happening on LJ right now. God forbid we should speak up -- there might be OH NOES drama, and drama must be avoided at all costs, apparently, even when it's well-deserved drama. I think that's bullshit. If I have something negative to say about someone, I figure there are two choices -- either don't say it, or say it with my name attached, and stand by my own words. If I'm wanky about it, I fully expect to catch flack for it, and I fully expect people to point-and-laugh or call me on my batshittery.
So I think that's why it boggles me when there are so many people going "oh, why don't they just let it go and move on" instead of pointing out to their friend that her actions were wrong, or even asking why she would feel the need to do something like that. If the situation was reversed, these same people would probably be calling for blood. That's fucked up, man. Being someone's friend doesn't mean you can't ever think they're wrong, and can't ever hold them accountable for their words and their actions.
And it doesn't mean the other side should just shut up, either.