I am woman, hear me rant.
Jul. 3rd, 2008 02:39 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fangirl_saysI honestly do not understand the mindset that says people who've been on the receiving end of an unprovoked, anonymous attack should just not say anything. Should just let it go and move on. Or maybe just quietly work it out in email.
Fuck that noise.
People who smear other people anonymously do so because they think they can get away with it. Maybe they have gotten away with it in the past. And you know what? If there aren't any repercussions, they'll probably do the same thing in the future.
I think society in general tells women they shouldn't complain when they're wronged, shouldn't make a fuss, and I see that happening on LJ right now. God forbid we should speak up -- there might be OH NOES drama, and drama must be avoided at all costs, apparently, even when it's well-deserved drama. I think that's bullshit. If I have something negative to say about someone, I figure there are two choices -- either don't say it, or say it with my name attached, and stand by my own words. If I'm wanky about it, I fully expect to catch flack for it, and I fully expect people to point-and-laugh or call me on my batshittery.
So I think that's why it boggles me when there are so many people going "oh, why don't they just let it go and move on" instead of pointing out to their friend that her actions were wrong, or even asking why she would feel the need to do something like that. If the situation was reversed, these same people would probably be calling for blood. That's fucked up, man. Being someone's friend doesn't mean you can't ever think they're wrong, and can't ever hold them accountable for their words and their actions.
And it doesn't mean the other side should just shut up, either.
Fuck that noise.
People who smear other people anonymously do so because they think they can get away with it. Maybe they have gotten away with it in the past. And you know what? If there aren't any repercussions, they'll probably do the same thing in the future.
I think society in general tells women they shouldn't complain when they're wronged, shouldn't make a fuss, and I see that happening on LJ right now. God forbid we should speak up -- there might be OH NOES drama, and drama must be avoided at all costs, apparently, even when it's well-deserved drama. I think that's bullshit. If I have something negative to say about someone, I figure there are two choices -- either don't say it, or say it with my name attached, and stand by my own words. If I'm wanky about it, I fully expect to catch flack for it, and I fully expect people to point-and-laugh or call me on my batshittery.
So I think that's why it boggles me when there are so many people going "oh, why don't they just let it go and move on" instead of pointing out to their friend that her actions were wrong, or even asking why she would feel the need to do something like that. If the situation was reversed, these same people would probably be calling for blood. That's fucked up, man. Being someone's friend doesn't mean you can't ever think they're wrong, and can't ever hold them accountable for their words and their actions.
And it doesn't mean the other side should just shut up, either.
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Date: 2008-07-03 08:13 pm (UTC)1) How can anybody say that if you're being attacked (and if you did nothing to provoke the attack other than launching a website that is accessible to everybody and that everybody can contribute to), you should just shut up about it? What do those people expect? That if someone calls you a whore 50 times, that you just send them a nice, friendly and polite email asking them to stop? No! It doesn't work this way. If someone does you wrong, you call them out on it because otherwise the person will just go on. This is so sick.
2) How can anybody not see that ckll is a liar? How can people still stand behind her and buy the "woe is me, I'm the victim" picture when there is proof that shows she is NOT the victim and that proves that she lies? How can people still follow someone so two-faced blindly? I really, really don't understand that.